Y’all I had the best brunch ever on Sunday. I went to K Restaurant in Orlando and it was amaze. My favorite part was the bacon and the pork belly Benedict. If you get the chance to go there, do it. You could say on the food end, I’ve been living it up lately.
My dating life however, has been pretty dry at the moment because I’m just not in the mood to hop back in. Stressful. I’ve got stuff to do. Such as a big career coming up.
If you didn’t know, I’m leaving next month for the Army. I’ll be in basic training for 10 weeks and no real contact with the outside world. So the blog posts will take a hiatus. Sad.
But the thought of starting a relationship when I’m about to embark on this journey is scary. And I’ve noticed men aren’t to keen to the idea either.
I started dating a man in December. He wanted to just spend time together and then end it when I left because he can’t do the distance. But then realized fairly quick he was getting too attached and it would hurt too much when we said goodbye. Respect. We are still good friends though. Which I’m thankful for.
Then there was Mr. B…. who says I couldn’t trust him if I was gone and couldn’t even talk to him. True. He’s not trustworthy anyway.
But is this really all there is to it? Just the distance and not being able to talk for a temporary period of time? Or is it the thought of being with a woman in a high position of authority?
That’s right y’all. I am not just enlisting. I’m going to Officer Candidate School. When I graduate I will be a lieutenant in the great US Army. That’s a big deal.
Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not like these men didn’t have good careers. But an officer in the military is a bigger deal. More responsibility. More authority. More money.
I think men have problems with a woman being higher ranking and making more income. Now I know this is not true for all of them, but based on society values and the “way things have always been” it’s threatening to masculinity. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a woman being able to stand on her own two feet and not having to be dependent. I’ll be damned if I ever have to be dependent on a man.
You see, the way people seem to value relationships and marriage these days is poor. Things don’t always work out and I need to be able to support myself. Say I get married and I end up being stuck in something unhappy because I can’t afford to support myself? No fucking way. My momma always taught me to be self reliant and therefor I am. I’ve seen the unfortunate dilemma of being stuck and unhappy firsthand and I can’t imagine being in that situation.
I was talking to a man in the army last year, a sgt. I told him I intended on joining and he was extremely interested in me. Until I told him I wanted to go to OCS and was submitting a packet. He was not supportive, doubted me, and then completely dropped me. Don’t think he is ok being with a female who outranks him.
Things are changing. Women are doing great things. We can do anything a man can do. And some things we are even better at. I think it’s time we stop giving a negative connotation to women who do great things. Or even to those of us who are super independent. Happy international women’s day to all you spectacular women.
Don’t ever let anyone dull your shine. If a man can’t accept and appreciate you for being a boss and doing great things, he doesn’t deserve you. He doesn’t deserve to be apart of your greatness. You will find a man who loves it and you for all you do. Don’t ever settle. Do your thing babygirl. Because we rule the world.
And while you’re at it, eat that last piece of pizza, cookie, donut or whatever the hell you want because you deserve it. And so do I.
Peace, love, and food Over Dudes. ✌🏻 cheers!